Whether you plan to leave your abuser or unsure when you should do it, it is important to prepare a strategy that will get you out safely. These tips will help you protect yourself and even your family as it will make the difference between a dangerous situation and a safe one.
Here are 4 ways you can stay safe when leaving your abuser.
Prepare For Emergencies
Make sure to have your prepared information and items ready and know where you are able to go without your abuser able to find you. Avoid all spaces that are small and far from exits, such as the bathrooms or closets. Stay away from the kitchen or areas with potential weapons. If possible, head to a room that can be easily seen outside near a door or window.
Know the Warning Signs
Always stay alert for clues or signs that your abuser is getting angry and triggering violence. Come up with believable excuses that you can use to leave your home when you sense the danger.
Be Ready to Leave At All Times
Always make sure that you are ready to leave at all times. Keep the car keys nearby, the car fueled up and facing towards the exit. Try to hide a spare key where your abuser will not know so that you may be able to get it immediately if he tries to take the keys. Make sure to practice an escape plan so that you and your family will know exactly what to do during an event with your abuser.
Memorize Important Contacts
Have several people in mind to ask if you can call them if you need a ride, help or even a place to stay. Be sure to memorize their numbers as well as the local emergency contacts, domestic violence hotline, and your local shelter.
You may be in fear to leave your abuser and even scared to ask for help if your partner finds out. However, these precautions will prepare you for the moment and help take you towards safety. Seek help right away and cover your tracks as much as possible.